Saturday, July 30, 2016

Truth Be Told

Every four years, I get excited about two things: the summer Olympics and the election season.  Most of the time, I hate to admit, I am very "head in the sand" about what is going on in the country and in the world barring whatever I glean from Facebook or Twitter or word of mouth.  It's not some kind of statement I'm trying to make; I just don't like most of what I read because the depressing headlines are always way above the good, positive stories.  Reading all the terrible events that are happening make me feel like we are all going to Hell in a hand basket, but only because the media don't like to showcase all that is right in the world.  So when election and Olympic seasons start to come up, I can't get enough of reading about everything I can or watching whatever I can about all that is going on.  I guess you could say that is when I catch up about what I missed the other years.

Now each year "They" always say that "this is a critical election year" for a variety of reason.  Twelve years ago it was because we were either going to elect our first African-American president or our first female VP.  Four years ago, it was to either keep up what was going on in Washington or "drastically change" the status quo.  This election season is a whole new ballgame.

If you know me, it's not hard for you to gather that I lean toward liberal progressive views.  There are some conservative ideas I can jive with, but I'm most definitely "left of center".  If given the choice between Republican and Democrat, I tend to side with the Dems because they usually have platforms I agree with.  That being said, I have my fair share of Repubs I like: Giuliani, Christie Todd Whitman, Bloomberg (Yes I know he's Independent now, but I liked him then too).  It honestly boils down to if they support policies and ideas I can buy into.  Despite my personal views, I watch both Republican and Democratic debates.  I do tend to get angrier when I watch the Republicans, but neither side knows what they are talking about when it comes to my two causes close to my heart: education and mental health.  Getting into that would be a whole other blog post. I digress...

So I have been watching the debates ever since Jeb Bush was allowed to participate and there were more than just Bernie and Hillz.  When I watched the first Republican debate, I can honestly tell you that was the most entertaining television I had seen in a while.  The term "shit show" only scrapes the surface. I was bummed I forgot my popcorn when I was watching it.  What gets me though about both sides debating is that once a person drops out of the race, suddenly they are all about their rival who they tried so desperately to prove was not a good fit for the job. Again, I digress...

I said earlier that I love this time of year because of all the knowledge I gain about our country, the political system, foreign affairs.  I could go on, but the point is I soak up so much I didn't know. About both sides. And it's fascinating to me.  If I'm not sure of something that was mentioned or alluded, I simply go to the Google Machine and learn about it.  It's amazing.

On a side note: I cannot fully express how emotional I became when it was official that, for the first time, a woman is THE presidential candidate of a major political party.  Growing up, of course we were told that a woman could run for president, but it was coated with an unspoken idea that it was a foreign concept.  Love her, hate her, or have a neutral opinion, Hillary Clinton made history.  I can now confidently look my daughter in the face and say, "See, you can do that one day if you want." There is an actual example I can point to rather than an abstract maybe.  And for those of you who throw up in your mouths a little at the mere hint of HRC, I would have said the same thing if Carly Fiorina had been the candidate for the Repubs, so calm yourselves.
*And I am well aware that this is not the first time a woman has been the candidate of a political party.  I've done my homework thankyouverymuch.

Moving on.

Here's what I don't like about this time of year.  So many people, many of whom I admire and love tremendously, are very open about their views in such a negative and vitriolic way.  I welcome opposing viewpoints because I can learn from them; however, when all someone can say about the candidate they don't like is a string of insults, they have a pretty weak argument.  I want to know what they think about their favorite candidate. Particularly if it's backed up by actual knowledge and fact rather than popular opinion or what NBC or FoxNews puts out there.  I begin to lose respect for people who slam the opposing side, but when asked if they watched ALL the debates or ALL the conventions or ALL the speeches simply reply with "Hell no!" or "Are you kidding?!"  No, I'm not kidding.  How can you make any kind of decision if you don't know as much as you can?  Negativity can be easily said about all candidates. Know why?  Because they are human beings and are prone to screwing up from time to time.  Some screw ups are more extreme than others, but the point is there is not now, nor has there ever been, a perfect person who has run for any political office.  Inevitably, there is going to be a creative rearranging of facts or a quote taken out of context that will be used against candidates by their opponents.  It happens. All. The. Time.  Is this new to anyone?

Oh and before anyone goes and believes anything you see plastered all over Facebook and Twitter, do yourself a favor and fact check - there are people out there whose sole responsibility is to research the facts candidates throw out there about whatever talking points they have for whatever reason.  Especially fact check the person you support if for no other reason than to make sure your argument you have when you support him or her is correct.

I think there is only one group of people who irritate me more than those who are so blind to ideas that are different than theirs. It's the people who say, "Why bother voting because I don't like either of these *insert colorful adjective of choice here*?"  Or suggesting that their vote doesn't count.  Here is where these folks have a tremendous opportunity.  Learn about the candidates. Not just the Red Team or the Blue Team, but ALL the "teams".  Have you checked out Gary Johnson or Jill Stein?  Some might say that voting for one of them will take a vote away from *fill in the blank person you want to see win* so they should stick with choosing "the lesser of two evils".  Are you effing kidding me?  No, a vote for someone is a vote FOR them. Not a vote against someone else. There is a difference.  Furthermore, have these peeps heard of Congress?  The reason why there can be gridlock when it comes to a president getting laws passed or changed is because Congress blocks it because they don't agree.  And vice versa.  So you might be afraid that your person you love won't get to change his or her address to 1600 Pennsylvania Ave.?  Learn about the Congress men and women you are also voting for.  There are 469 seats (34 Senate and all 435 House) open for re-election this year.  Do you know who will be on your ballot?  Find it out and take that knowledge with you to the polls in November.  Are you picking up on my theme of learning yet?

I have a special little something for those eligible to vote, yet choose not to for whatever (in my opinion, inexcusable) reason:  I am a firm believer of choice when you have one; it is is your right to choose whether or not to stand in line and vote. However, you then forfeit your right to say one damn thing about the status of our country or the policies that happen in the next four years or that you can't believe so and so was selected for the Supreme Court.  Not one friggin' thing. You can't have it both ways.  At the very least, I sure as hell won't listen to you bitch and moan.

So before I get down off my soapbox, I would like to say that if anyone wants to know who I plan on voting for for president - I have firmly decided who it is and have reasons to back my choice - ask me.  I will happily tell you.  But I invite you to read the blog post I quoted recently and ask that you disagree (or agree) with me like a grown up.  You start to become visceral and I will walk away from you.  You want to debate with me like an informed and intelligent adult, I welcome that.  The bottom line is: 

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Catherine's New Stats - 7 yr old version

Better late than never, right?


1. What is your favorite color?
Blue

 2. What is your favorite toy?
My FurReal Friends wolf

3. What is your favorite fruit?
watermelon

4. What is your favorite tv show?
Gumball

5. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch?
PB&Jelly

6. What is your favorite outfit?
A dress

7. What is your favorite game?
Crossbow

 8. What is your favorite snack?
gummies

 9. What is your favorite animal?
kitty

10. What is your favorite song?
"Let it Go"

11. What is your favorite book?
Diva and Flea

12. Who is your best friend?
Nicholas

13. What is your favorite cereal?
oatmeal with peanut butter

14. What is your favorite thing to do outside?
play with my crossbow

15. What is your favorite drink?
milk

16. What is your favorite holiday?
Easter

17. What do you like to take to bed with you at night?
My FurReal Friends wolf

18. What is your favorite thing to eat for breakfast?
oatmeal with peanut butter

19. What do you want for dinner on your birthday?
noodles with butter and cheese

20. What do you want to be when you grow up?
fashion designer

Sunday, May 17, 2015

Let's Talk. Ending the Stigma.

As part of Mental Health Awareness month, I have been trying to post something (usually many somethings) on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to help bring awareness to at least the small community of people I know - or who follow me.  During these last few weeks, I have had several people reach out to me thanking me for my posts, sharing their own stories, or simply giving me love.  To those, I say thank you.  The biggest reason I want to flood my social media forums with so much information is because I'm really tired of the stigma that is associated with mental health.  No one wants to talk about it.  And my question is: Why aren't we talking about it?  I think I know the answer: there is a stigma, but what does it look like?

Allow me to shed some light.

Stigma is.....

- Having a boss who, when you have a breakdown at work, sits as far away from you as possible and asks why you never shared this with her because sometimes she "feels out of it too" and "gets bummed".

- Having co-workers who will send "Get Well!" cards to people who had out-patient surgery, but not to you when you spend a week in the Behavioral Health Unit.  Actually, it's having no one from your job "community" check in on you in any way.

- Having a boss who, when you go to collect your things from the job you can no longer work at because it's a trigger, comes no closer to you than the door frame.

- Having the same boss get a frightened look on her face when you ask to borrow a pair of scissors.

- Having former co-workers go around telling people that you "went nuts" and are "crazy" because you "flipped out for no reason" at work.

- Hearing people misuse the term "bipolar" to you when talking about someone whose mood changes.

- When someone asks if I've tried "just not thinking about it".

- When people suggest that someone is "schizo" because they are joking about having more than one personality.

- When people ask: "So it's ok for you to be around kids for your job?"

- When people ask: "Well, if there is no test for it, then how do know you really have it?"

- When people ask: "What about your daughter? Are you ever like that in front of her?"

- When people suggest that I might freak out at any time.

- When I'm not allowed to get pissed off or angry because I'm having an "episode".

I could keep going, but I think/hope you get the idea.  No wonder why people who have mental illness don't want to talk. Why would they?  When someone says that there is an issue with their mental health, it is automatically assumed that they can't be trusted or are unstable or unsafe to be around.  Yes, there are some who will accept them, but it's not a given.  It also doesn't help when bad news is reported and the person who is guilty is said to have been suffering from a mental illness, thus associating mental health with negativity.  Just like any other illness, when managed, a person can live a very healthy and productive life.

What I would love is for mental health and screenings to be as frequently talked about as getting tested for AIDS or checking for lumps in your breasts or testicles.  I would love it if friends and loved ones were as quick to suggest getting a check up for mental health symptoms like they would be about a cough or pain that hasn't gone away in a month or two.  Mental health has stages just like any other illness.  You wouldn't wait until you or a loved one displayed symptoms of a disease at stages 3 or 4, so why does it have to be that way for mental health?

Do you want to know what you can do?  It's simple really.  If you are in a conversation with someone and they make an unkind comment about mental health, correct them the same way you would if they had said AIDS is the "gay disease" or anything else that is false.  If you know and love someone who just doesn't seem like themselves, ask them if they are feeling ok and have seen a doctor.  Go with them if they are afraid or need help.  If you know someone who has an illness, be a support system for them. Don't know how to do that? There are TONS of resources online - NAMI or Bring Change 2 Mind are two good ones to check out.  Don't know about a specific mental illness? Google it and read up on it so you can be informed.  There are a ton - anything that causes the brain to function differently is a mental health condition; some are more serious than others.  Just like any other illness or disease.  I have been posting a ton of information on my Facebook - repost it.  Everyone is quick to change their profile pics or covers for national pride or AIDS awareness or any other cause, why not this?  Mental Health Awareness Month is only for the month of May - think you could change your profile pic and/or cover for the next two weeks?  Help start the conversation.  Help stop the stigma.





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